The conversations have already begun about family members who don't dare eat a piece of pie on Thanksgiving due to fear of gaining WEIGHT.
I think in bullet points so here we go! How to survive Thanksgiving and all the food and weight talk:(whether or not your child has an eating disorder)
- Make a plan ahead of time on how you'll handle weight talk, the Trust Feeding Model is a good resource.
- Decide on what you'll use for fun distractions during the day.
- Remind yourself that there are much more interesting things to talk about than weight.
- If you have a loved one with an eating disorder, share eating disorders information with family ahead of time.
- For those with food fears and/or eating disorders, acknowledge their fears and have compassion.
- Deflect 'fat talk/calorie talk' with a funny story you've prepared ahead of time.
- Remember that gratitude is what this day is about, create a gratitude ritual.
- Share Alliance for Eating Disorders info with people looking for eating disorders treatment.
- Ask fat phobic person to read up on restricting food leading to food binging.
Don't even get me started on all the running and workouts that have to happen to be able to deal with the extra food on Thanksgiving...it's one day. One day I hope you'll enjoy. I'm so grateful for each one of you!
Speaking of GRATITUDE...I'm hearing from more Eating Disorders Treatment Professionals that they care about hearing WHAT PARENTS WANT! This is music to my ears!
The moms of Mothers Against Eating Disorders (MAED) shared their wants and needs. Then, Eating Disorders Advocate Extraordinaire, Cherie Monarch wrote a very helpful paper, What We Wish Eating Disorder Treatment Centers Knew. It includes 25 of the top needs and wants. You can read it and comment on it on the March Against ED blog or on my blog at Eating Disorder Family Support.
Back by popular demand: Pescadero Beach Escape for our Spring 2017 Hope Network Mom's Retreat!
The 10 spaces FILLED in 1 week! We added 2 more spots and there is only one left. We've extended it to Wednesday - Sunday so moms havemore time to spend with 'those who get it' and fill their cups to the BRIM!
Were you thinking of coming or sending professionals from your Eating Disorder Treatment Center? We are looking into adding a 3rd Hope Network Retreat in 2017 to have a combo of moms of those with eating disorders alongside caregivers who work with eating disorders all day every day. Contact me to discuss. 952-451-5663.
We're so grateful to have more treatment centers like yours sponsoring our Hope Network Retreats. Thank you to the centers here who are already on board. Check our website to see how your center can be a sponsor too.
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"I got my 'groove' back like Stella in the movie!" ~ Iowa Mom
"I came here broken and now I'm just bruised." ~ Texas Mom
"Thank you Becky and Thea, you and these other moms helped me get my life back!" - ~ Debra Schlesinger, Founder MAED
It's the 5th anniversary of the publishing of "Just Tell Her To Stop: Family Stories of Eating Disorders"
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And if you haven't written a review on Amazon, you'll get a special thank you from me if you do it before the end of the year!
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Monte Nido & Affiliates includes three distinct eating disorder treatment
programs: Monte Nido and Oliver-Pyatt Centers, which provides residential treatment to women, and outpatient treatment for males and females; and Clementine for adolescent girls. We began offering residential treatment in 1996 having been founded by women who are fully recovered and became leaders in the eating disorder treatment field.
What binds us together is our vast overlap in mission and philosophical approaches to providing best-in-class, evidence-based treatment for eating disorders – from a medical, psychiatric, therapeutic and nutritional perspective. We are committed to being
industry leaders and share the belief that fully recovery is possible. Additionally all of our residential programs are in home-like settings, providing an environment conducive to healing.
Monte Nido has established itself as the clinical leader in the eating disorder ﬁeld being widely recognized for achieving superior clinical outcomes that show the highest levels of recovery through our peer-reviewed and published residential facility outcome study. In this study, the vast majority of patients demonstrated signiﬁcant changes in symptoms and behaviors from admission to discharge, and maintained that improvement throughout the course of the study.
Our residential programs are located in Southern California, Oregon, New York, South Florida and Massachusetts, with day treatment programs offering partial hospitalization and intensive outpatient programming in Los Angeles, San Diego and Newport Beach, CA; Portland and Eugene, OR; Boston, MA; Miami, FL; New York, NY; and Philadelphia, PA.
The Healthy Teen Project believes a teenager-only therapeutic environment is important when treating teens with eating disorders as teens have specific needs that are different than those of adults:
- Family Support - With teens, family support and therapy is an integral component, both for nutritional rehabilitation and to explore other challenges of adolescence and mental health.
- Group Therapy And Support From Their Peers - Group therapy allows teenagers to find a place where they can open up and be honest and real about their struggles, relate to others, and receive much needed support. Teenagers are at very different places in life than adults and it is other teenagers that provide the validation and support they require.
- Greater focus on behavioral and experiential opportunities vs. cognitive/verbal skills -Teenagers get more out of "doing" rather than "talking about doing". At HTP, teenagers are actively engaged in experiential opportunities and behavioral approaches, such as art therapy, yoga therapy, meal preparation and restaurant exposures. Additionally, HTP provides a teen-oriented environment where teens can feel safe, nurtured and hopeful. By not treating adolescents along side adult peers, HTP is able to provide the interventions specific to teens with eating disorders.