Understanding how my brain works (a scary concept I give you that) will help you see the connections in my title.
Different people react differently to threatening situations. I have, so far observed different approaches and all have various and numerous causes I’m sure. There must be a study somewhere on this...right Kitty Westin?
- Stand firmly in DENIAL and go on with our lives - if the threat remains just that.
- Walk around completely unaware.
- Sheer and total panic rendering the person incapacitated.
- Absolute Terror and action.
- Fatalistic approach...we are all going to die and it doesn’t matter what we do.
In addition to shutting windows, blinds and doors (yes it got very warm very quickly) and filling every container I could find with water, I called my mom in Minnesota to say, “Goodbye.”
During all of this my mind was going a million miles an hour; “Will I ever see any loved ones again? Will Jay stay put at the yoga studio? Will we die instantly or be sickened by fallout? Where are Jay’s passwords? How long with the food in the fridge be safe to eat? Will I run out of water? How will I tell my daughter what was happening? And a thousand scarier thoughts.
While talking to my mom; who was in #1 above, I looked on Twitter and thankfully saw the Governor’s message that this was a mistake...never in those minutes did I envision this potential outcome! We were still going to be healthy, safe, able to eat and drink and breathe clean air!! And see our loved ones again!
After calming down I went to see the waves at the lighthouse with my friends who were also visiting the island from Minnesota. They had watched a football game while this was going on. Both had grown up with air-raid drills and weren’t phased at all. Blew me away, this wasn’t a drill. They’re smart people. It was surreal to be outside breathing clean, safe air and watching the waves and whales after thinking my life as I knew it was over.
One of the self-care tools I teach to parents of kids with eating disorders is to practice gratitude. Often parents will tell me there is nothing to be grateful for when they have a child at death’s door. Being grateful for clean air, clean water, enough food and good health are some of the things I’ve suggested that they feel gratitude about.
It takes doing it regularly to get into the habit of practicing gratitude so that it can become a go-to tool to cope with all that eating disorders challenge a parent with on a daily basis. This is why we teach how to practice gratitude during the self-care training at the SHIFT HAPPENS Retreats.
The next one is April 25-29 in Pescadero Beach, CA and there are limited spots available. As part of my gratitude I’m offering a Valentine’s Day Special for moms who wish to join us to have SHIFT HAPPEN! Those who register and pay for lodging NOW through Valentine’s Day get the special discounted rates!
So there you have it! Missile Threats, Gratitude, Self-Care and Valentine’s Day! All in one.
I would love to hear what you are grateful for and how you practice gratitude. Please share your comments. Thanks!
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