My response included:
I'm curious about who is saying to you that eating disorders are ONLY a biological brain based illness. Researchers have been saying for a number of years now that these are " bio-psycho-social" illnesses. It takes all of the components and we still don't understand what influences the genes to be triggered in some and not in others.
My HUNCH about those who want to say they are purely biological brain based illnesses is that it is a back lash to the YEARS and YEARS of parents being told that if we weren't cold, controlling and dieting, our kids wouldn't develop eating disorders. There are still practitioners out there who firmly believe, "If it weren't for pathological parents, we wouldn't have eating disorders." This is what we've been up against for a long time. So when science showed us that there is a brain based component, some jumped on that wagon and chose to leave out the other components. I get it, I'm sick of parents being blamed/considered part of the problem. Much of the time in my coaching sessions doing eating disorder parent support is spent undoing the harm done by implicating parents as part of the problem.
As to wondering what caused the ed, it's like an itch that we keep scratching. We really don't need to know the cause. Sometimes we don't know what causes other illnesses either, we must just go on from there. Blaming ourselves or implicating ourselves is not doing our children or anyone else any good. I'm all about accountability and when the time is right (after full nutritional restoration) it may be useful for some families to explore and resolve remaining underlying issues.
As you can see, I'm rather passionate about this topic. Having been on the receiving end of under-educated treatment professionals who basically communicated, "You've done enough damage, just get out of the way." I get my feathers ruffled about parents taking blame. It doesn't serve anyone. And there are plenty of families in which there was ZERO dysfunction, ZERO dieting, no abuse, no fat shaming, only loving amazing parenting and the child still developed an eating disorder.
This is yet another reason we have our March Against ED coming up in Washington, D.C. October 27th and Eating Disorders Coalition Lobby Day for the #AnnaWestinAct on October 28th, 2015.