One of the things that “Ed” or eating disorders often takes away from caregivers is seeing our loved one smile. This only adds to our sadness and grief from all of the things “ed” continues to steal from our loved ones and US!
This was before I learned about SELF-CARE. And those who know me know I am constantly encouraging self-care as it helps us fill our constantly draining cups. It also helps alleviate our distress and helps us be able to tolerate out child’s distress.
- Practice Self-care
- Learn Distress Tolerance skills
- Consciously Choose your Perspective
These are all obviously easier said than done. They take learning, support, practice and accountability. When we are suffering so immensely it can be hard to think of what to do and how to do it.
Here is a cheat sheet to print and have ready every day. And if you decide to get some support and accountability to do these things, considering either group coaching or 1:1 coaching. You can read about these options on my website.
- Practicing self-care can be as simple as making a list of things you enjoy and doing 1 every day. It can be much more as well.
- Learning distress tolerance skills can help with your distress and with tolerating your loved-one’s distress. Both are essential. This can be some simple 4-7-8 breathing. Breathe in for a count of 4, hold for a count of 7 and breathe out for 8. I have many breathing and meditation videos on my YouTube Channel.
- Consciously choosing our perspective can be easy or hard. When we have someone helping us it is MUCH easier. I remember saying to myself, “When I’m sad, “ed” wins. When I’m happy, I and my family win.” And that helped me.
Which tips will you implement today? If you want to try coaching, give me a call or send and email and set up a free 30 minute consultation.
Your loved one needs you to have your cup filled up. This is NOT selfish, it’s essential.