Animals often have more innate wisdom than humans and know they need to reserve their energy and it wouldn’t serve the cub for momma to use up all that energy to go back down and rescue it. Plus, she believes in the cub’s capacity to climb. It’s hard for us to believe in our loved one’s when they’re being held hostage by ed and often acting out and behaving in ways that are sabotaging their recovery. AND...we need to believe in their capacity. We need to show them that we will believe in recovery for them until they can believe in it for themselves.
Notice momma bear is not ranting, raving or wringing her hands. She paces back and forth a bit and yet she stays at the top of the mountain showing her cub the way. And believing in her cub. She isn’t abandoning. She is keeping very close watch.
It can feel like we are abandoning our loved one when we don’t rescue. It is actually giving them the greatest gift we can give them, our belief in them. That means we have to manage our own feelings of distress which is not possible if we are not practicing self care.
What will you take away from watching this momma bear?